The other day I posted a note that read, “After a while, you just stop giving a damn.” The note received some interesting responses, so I thought it worthwhile to share where that thought came from, especially in the context of becoming UnBound.
Trauma is not a word I throw around lightly. It’s a gut punch, a soul-shaker, a life-altering experience that can leave you feeling shattered. But here’s the thing, UnBound Warriors: shattered doesn’t mean broken. It means you’ve got cracks, and those cracks allow light to shine in, even where it’s darkest. The journey of becoming UnBound is about embracing those cracks, acknowledging the pain, and discovering the strength that emerges from it.
What do I mean by “not giving a damn”? I’m not saying you need to become an emotionless robot, because feelings are real, and they matter. And your truth matters too—it’s the very core of who you are, UnBound and free. But after trauma, and as you step into your UnBound self, you learn to be a selective damn-giver. You’ve been through hell, and you deserve to choose where you spend your precious energy, so you have the strength to stand in your truth, the strength to be UnBound.
Trauma survivors like myself, and those on the path to becoming UnBound, often get stuck in a loop of self-blame. “What if I had done this?” “If only I hadn’t…” Stop. Right now. You did what you did, and gave all you could with what you had. Allowing the stories of your past to write your present and future chapters can and will feed into the development of a false sense of self.
This is where “not giving a damn” becomes your superpower on your UnBound journey. It’s about refusing to let the past define you. It’s about saying, “I’m done carrying this weight,” so I can be free to live my truth, my UnBound truth.
Then there are the leeches, the energy vampires, the people who try to drag you back down. Maybe they were part of the trauma, maybe they’re just toxic in general. The golden nugget is: you don’t owe them anything.
“Not giving a damn” means setting boundaries so fierce they could cut diamonds. It means saying, “You are not welcome in my healing space, my UnBound space,” because my truth deserves to be honored here, in my UnBound life. Maybe your truth is that you need to speak out against injustice, even if it’s unpopular. “Not giving a damn” means not caring about the backlash, not silencing your voice—because your UnBound voice matters.
Trauma can leave you feeling like you’re walking on eggshells, always waiting for the next disaster. That hypervigilance? Exhausting. Debilitating. “Not giving a damn” in this context is about reclaiming your inner peace so you can connect with your inner wisdom and know your UnBound truth.
Not giving a selective damn isn’t about being heartless. It’s about being strategic. It’s about recognizing your worth, protecting your energy, and choosing to focus on your own well-being. Because you, the UnBound Warrior, are worth it.
So, unleash your inner light. In the chaos of current events, embrace the art of being an UnBound selective damn-giver toward anything that threatens your ability to live truthfully, to be UnBound.
And RISE. Rise into your UnBound self.