“Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person assumes the role of “the giver,” sacrificing their own needs and well-being for the sake of the other, “the taker.” The bond in question doesn’t have to be romantic; it can occur just as easily between parent and child, friends, and family members.” — Psychology Today
That time when something was said or someone acted in a way towards you that afterwards you wondered why you allowed it to happen. Instead of using your words to address the experience, you began doubting your ability to express your authentic self. Perhaps you question if you even know who that self is.Think about a current challenge or decision you’re facing. Are you doubting your choice? Is there a sense of irritation, regret, or resentment that you find yourself in such a disagreeable position? Or is it because you knew what the outcome would be and didn’t listen to your intuition?
The choice you make shows the difference between serving your needs or meeting their wants. You are standing at the crossroads of codependency; continuing the current path of thinking will lead towards emotional harm to yourself from a disconnect with self-trust.
So, what does your intuition tell you about the best course of action? How can you strengthen your trust in following the guidance of your intuition?
Having been in this anxiety-inducing situation numerous times, I’ve learned that when I am indecisive, it’s important to lean into what I know from past experiences. This is one of the times past traumatic experiences can be helpful as leverage:
I think of what I gave up in my past to meet others’ needs and wants in lieu of rejection: self-respect, my worth, self-trust, compassion, understanding, love, and my voice. I consider how I’ve grown, my values, and what each choice will bring me. I think of what I want most from a connection, and I consider what I feel in my body—it knows the choices I need to make. If I listen to my body, I will choose what my Awareness, Discernment, and Understanding are guiding me towards.
I take a deliberate step and choose me.
🤍🕊️ Sher
Journaling Prompt:
Reflect on a time when you faced a difficult decision as a codependent. What steps did you take to recognize and honor your intuition? How did setting and holding a boundary impact your self-trust and sense of self-respect? Write about the tools and strategies you can use to apply these lessons to current or future challenges.