I recently took a break from public posting, prioritizing personal growth over constant updates. Today, I share an excerpt from my upcoming book, The Moreness Chronicles (Summer 2024).
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Excerpt from The Moreness Chronicles
(Summer of 2024)
This is me – Sher Unbound. I’m not perfect, but I am at peace with this version of myself. It’s okay to be a bit “messy.” Not messy, as in sloppy; rather, I’m real and don’t mind showing it.
It used to bother me that I didn’t conform to societal standards. Not anymore.
To conceal my shame about PTSD symptoms and convinced that my adverse experiences made me a bad person, I tried living my life according to others’ expectations—being someone I was uncomfortable with. This only brought frustration, pain, and lowered my self-worth, preventing me from recognizing the fullness of who I am. Instead of helping, trying to hide my true self exacerbated my PTSD symptoms.
So, I embrace being what some might label as messy, eclectic, or weird. I’m not my age; I am not typical. I am not my past. I am Unbound Moreness.
I don’t mind being disorganized, running a little late, or even arriving too early. I’m okay with appearing anxious or overzealous. I ask questions because I want to understand life and the people who live it.
I’ve wasted too many years on being comfortable with hiding.
I don’t mind showing my emotions. I’m done with being quiet, hiding my feelings, and being reserved. I refuse to hide my sensuality, emotions, moods, or strength just because it might make someone else uncomfortable. I won’t hide my light any longer.
There’s nothing wrong with being the me I choose to be. And, I’m too intentional to care about being cool.
I’m not trendy, and I don’t mind one bit. I enjoy wearing what I want—from fragrances to colors, bizarre jewelry combinations, and tattoos. I like that I don’t style my hair. Makeup and nails are not my thing. I am not you, and I don’t want anyone to believe they need to emulate me. If you’re looking for someone cool, I’m definitely not your person.
Your authenticity fuels the resilience that empowers you to confront life’s complexities.
And I believe I am authentic. I embrace the parts of me that have been labeled as wrong, ill, or disordered. Yes, I get depressed. Yes, I experience anxiety at times. Yes, some memories of traumatic experiences will never leave me. But I am not defined by those experiences. I am who I am today because those events gave me the strength and courage to be authentically me.
And it’s through those events that I learned and choose to live my life as me, Sher; Deliberately and UnBound.